27 Self Esteem Affirmations that Can Produce Desirable Life Changes.

Constantly affirming self esteem can be the difference between a rich, successful life and a life of mediocrity. Affirmation process mainly entails discarding old habits or ways of behaviour, beliefs and actions that let the human spirit bow and flee before challenges and adopting a more positive thought process, accepting challenges and been optimistic about life. It is possible to recaliberate your mind to think positively about any situation you go through in life. This really, is the beginning of building high self confidence.

Affirming confidence in yourself will generate confidence in you. It is ridiculously simple but powerfully effective. If you degrade yourself constantly or think less of yourself in any situation, then you will have a gloomy surrounding, most likely. In the same way, if you are happy and optimistic about life, you will have a better life experience. You will be fulfilled and since you approached most of life’s situations with confidence, you will have very few things to regret in your life. You will be proud of yourself, most likely.

 Self Esteem affirmations will generate the energy within you which will cause you to change. I you say the affirmations long enough and with much emotion, change will burst. You will lose control over your body and the you will approach life from within. Change can be difficult, so hat better way to inspire change in ourselves that to affirm constantly that we are capable of it.

Changing your mindset will take time. Although some results may happen instantly, others can take days or even months. Remember to build a positive self esteem, you will need to have faith in the principles you are using to achieve the results you expect. I believe that you are capable of changing your situation and having inner peace and strength. These 25 affirmations should be helpful.

27 Affirmations for Achieving High Self Esteem

·         I have peace within me

·         I have the ability to heal all issues affecting my confidence

·         I am smart

·         I am have inner secure in myself

·         I have inner confidence

·         All mistakes I have made so far are part of my learning process.

·         I am the captain of my destiny

·         I take action on things that affect my life.

·         I am a blessing to my generation

·         I have a purpose in life

·         I am smart enough to learn new things

·         I trust my skills to take me to my dreams

·         I am capable of anything if I set my mind to it.

·         I am lovely

·         I am worthy of love and friendship

·         Fear has no dominion over my life

·         I accept myself completely

·         I have what it takes to improve my life

·         I find deep inner peace within myself

·         I love and accept all parts of myself

·         I am an interesting person

·         All false messages about me are now dissolved in total grace

·         I get better day after day

·         I fill my mind with positive and nourishing thoughts.

·         I am a wonderful person.

·         I feel radiant full of abundant energy and health

·         The world is full of beauty and abundance

How Do I Build Self Esteem?

Our level of self esteem stems from how we perceive ourselves, and affects all areas of our lives; the higher our self esteem, and how good we feel about ourselves, the more likely we are to achieve success in all areas of our lives. You may be thinking; all well and good, but how do I build my self esteem? Here are some tried and trusted ways of helping yourself to gain self esteem;
Halt destructive thoughts. Remember, you have rights, opinions and ideas which are just as valid as everybody else's.
Use self- talk- this can be a really effective way of improving low self esteem. Think of the things you did well during the day, and praise yourself for them. Be definite ie 'I really made a good job of that assignment and my boss was really pleased' rather than 'I worked well today'. This may feel a little strange at first, but will soon become second nature.
Focus on your achievements rather than your failures. Everybody fails sometimes, you are not alone. If you find yourself dwelling too much on your failures, start to think of them as learning experiences and think of a lesson you can take from each one.
Come to terms with the past- many people suffer from low self esteem as the result of negative experiences in their lives or childhood; therapy is the most obvious solution and can be greatly beneficial, but not everybody will wish to access this. Others will benefit from joining a support group, or an online group. If you have friends you can trust, you could tell them and ask for their support.
Try keeping a 'Feelings Journal'; write down how you feel or how you feel certain events in your life have affected you. You needn't show this to anybody unless you want to, but the act of writing your feelings down will often minimise the power they have over you.
Write a list of all your good qualities and all the good thing you have in your life right now. Don't be shy! Keep adding to it, and place it somewhere you can see it often.
Set yourself small, easily achievable goals; ie to complete a small task that's been bugging you and you haven't got around to. Reward yourself when you have achieved this goal, and then set another, slightly more challenging goal.
Learn a new skill- this can be really beneficial for low self esteem. Scan the night class brochures from your local college, and pick something which takes your fancy, or something you've wanted to learn for some time. This could also open up a whole new social life for you. Some people find singing helps to improve self esteem, and there are now singing groups for all abilities. Other people find going to self defence classes boosts their self esteem.
Fake it 'til you make it! Play a little game with yourself... pretend to have amazing self esteem. Think how such a person would act, speak, hold themselves etc... then play that role; pretend you are them. Go on, have fun with this! Watch your body language- stand up straight. The more you practice this, eventually you will find you become that person!
Look after your physical health; eat well, get enough sleep and rest, and take regular exercise. You will feel so much better, which will boost your self esteem sky high. Aim to exercise for at least 30 minutes five times a week. Don't worry about joining a gym if you really don't want to. Find an exercise you enjoy and will be able to keep up; swimming, taking a walk with a friend or just dancing to your favorite music all count. Get into the habit of making exercise a part of your life. As well as feeling much healthier you will also lose excess weight, which can impact on self esteem. You could set yourself small goals, ie to swim 30 lengths or run a fun run. When you have achieved this, try a slightly more difficult goal; aim to swim a mile, or complete a 10k (6 mile) race.
Hopefully these ideas will enable you to start improving your low self esteem, especially if applied consistently.

4 STRONG CONTRIBUTIONS TO LOW SELF ESTEEM WHICH YOU SHOULD AVOID

To feel less than or not as good as other people can be a very hurtful situation. This is so especially when you are an ambitious person and desire to grow in your career or social life. But our actions, as told by sociologists is a collection of what we have internalised in the past. To develop self confidence, we have to look back at our lives and fish out those things we do which makes us

think less of ourselves. If you lack self esteem, fighting it might be the most important thing in your life today. These 4 factors may be good to start with.

1. Low Self Esteem #1 - Trying too much to be like someone else.

Have you ever been in a position when you had to compete with somebody for a position and after the person put up a great presentation, you began to shrink and say to yourself, I cannot be that good? Well, it happened to me.

One of the biggest blows to self esteem is to always try to be somebody else.

Of course, it is good practice to be inspired by people's successes and aspire to attain the same feet as they have. However, it is prudent to know the difference between taking inspiration from people and endulging in unhealthy competition with people.

Desiring to be like someone else makes us refuse to recognise that which makes us unique and heads us on the path to hating ourselves. People who desire to be like other people normally do not find their unique self and this spirals into low self confidence.

Finding your unique is part of the process of healing your esteem. Start today. You can talk to friends and loved ones to help you find those things which you are good at. Spend time doing those things and you will begin to feel good about yourself.

Accept other peoples successes. Be happy for them. Develop yourself in what you are good at and you will not have to shrink when you see others go ahead.

2. Low self esteem#2 - Negative thinking. 

Negative thinking is known to fueled by

a. Watching negative movies

b. Listening to depressing songs which dims your mood and drains your self esteem.

c. Always been conscious of negative things or been excessively pessimistic and avoid it.

 

3. Low Self Esteem#3 - Thinking you are not good enough?

One of the major things that affect our self esteem is our childhood experiences.Your parents always have a significant effect on what you become. What they said to you, whether they were adequately able to provide for your childhood desires, or whether they had a strong loving relationship all affects our esteem. If you lived in a home where your parents were always fighting, you most likely were ashamed of them. And even so ashamed of yourself. Chances are that you did not bring friends over mostly and you wished your parents were like others'. This may have been the beginning of your

low self esteem; when you lose the pride associated with where you come from.

You may not have recovered since then. However, there is good news. Since the time you become an adult, your life is what you make of it. Refuse to think little and low of yourself. Tell yourself, you will be a great person. Set goals and go after them. With every achievement, you will feel good about yourself and you will realise that you are as capable as others.

This will require discipline and consistently taking action on your goals to overcome. Don't take it lightly.

4. Low Self Esteem#3 - Fear

Sometimes, we find ourselves held back by fear of failure, fear of pain, fear of embarrassment. This may have been resulted from experiences we had at one  point or another. We lose our confidence

to go through life when fear takes over. Sometimes, we develop fear out of situations that caused us pain or embarrassment. However, to be successful, you need to learn to go past fear and pursue your life with confidence. Most extreme cases of fear will require medical consultation. However, if your fear is based on experience, then I hope this helps:

"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.'

You must do the thing you think you cannot do. "

~ Eleanor Roosevelt

I must not fear.

Fear is the mind-killer.

Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.

I will face my fear.

I will permit it to pass over me and through me.

And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.

Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.

Only I will remain.

Frank Herbert

Are you determined to conquer the low self esteem? Then Let us begin.

5 Tips on How to Build Self Confidence Today

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There are very few people who could call themselves perfect and be right. Most of us need to build self confidence today, but the majority just either ignore the issues or concentrate on the negatives: stress, worry, jobs, money problems and relationship issues. Concentrating on these areas drains our self confidence rather than improving it.

If you could improve your self confidence you could make more money, look and feel better physically, or just be more relaxed with other people. Below there are five simple techniques that have been proved to help build self confidence today.

1. Talk to yourself. It sounds crazy but it works. All of us have a running monologue constantly in our heads, whether we realize it or not. Everything we see, hear, or touch sparks off an immediate dialog in our thoughts.

For those who lack confidence this monologue is filled with negative messages many of which are the negative side of adverts from television, radio, advertisement boardings, newspapers, and just overhearing other people talk.

These negative thoughts literally suck energy from our minds and bodies and block the flow of positive messages. We need to hear the positive messages as they will build self confidence today and raise our self esteem. Take control. Use your inner thoughts to talk to yourself in a positive manner, as often as you can.

As an example one of my regular sayings is "I like myself, I like myself, I like myself". I just repeat it for a couple of minutes. It sounds cheesy, but does build self confidence today – Try it. I bet that if you go to the mirror right now and repeat out loud "I like myself!" 50 times, it will be impossible to keep from smiling.

2. Dress as smartly and as classily as you can. You wont feel at your best if you don't look your best. You will be amazed at just how much more confidence you will have just looking your best. It just feels good when you are wearing your best clothes, are well groomed, and are surrounded by a clean environment. So what if it is Saturday, you need to build self confidence today not next week. Put on your nice clothes, get the car washed, style that hair! A hairdresser once told me "Everyday is show time!"

3. Increase your self esteem even more by giving thanks to what you are, how you look, and what you are doing. Say "thank you" to yourself to everything you see, all whom you meet, and each smile that you receive.

4. Stand or sit correctly: How you stand sends out a message to the World, and in turn, back to you. This results in improving how you feel about yourself and will build self confidence today and every day.

There is scientific evidence that shows how posture affects our mood. Do not slouch. Slouching produces a down mood. By slouching you are telling the world and yourself it doesn't matter, you don't matter. Standing tall and upright will actually lift your mood. Help build up your confidence by pulling back those shoulders, stop that slouch, and walk proud.

5. Smile. Just smile and things seem better somehow. Practice smiling regularly and get your facial muscles used to the physical act of smiling.

Go to the mirror and smile – make yourself. Not a grimace, but a proper smile. If you don't think you can try this:

1)Open your eyes as wide as you can – (try and get your eyebrows right up to you hair line)
2)Slightly open your mouth
3)Pull the corners of your mouth back towards your ears (If your not sure pull them back with your fingers so you know what it feels like then try again without your fingers).
4)Repeat 50 times. Get your facial muscles used to smiling and you will smile more and encourage smiles from others. This will make you feel happier and with that you'll build self confidence today.

An Ultimate Lifestyle Secret - The Power Of Self Confidence

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Self confidence is not something that holds me back, in fact I really appreciate the level of confidence I enjoy and feel that I can make the choices and decisions I want without a feeling of concern or over riding fear. That is not to say that I am always successful, but I realize that even by trying I am moving closer to a higher level of confidence.

I did not always have a high level of self confidence. When I was younger, I had a lot of self confidence in my ability to do well in football and track, but my confidence in my ability to deal with life’s challenges was quite low. This was probably caused by a fear of not measuring up to my parent’s expectations and a little bit of social shyness. However, as I got older, I realized that my parents only wanted me to be healthy and to try my best at everything I did. As a member of the Royal Canadian Mounted Police, I had a lot of social interaction with people from all walks of life and I lost most of my shyness. My job also required that I respond to all different kinds of situations. The more success I had, the more my self confidence rose.

Self confidence or confidence in yourself means that you know that you can do whatever task you are faced with. This does not mean that you have to do every task by yourself. It means that the ones you know you can do by yourself you do and the ones where you need help you know how to find it. Confidence is a learned trait, not something you are born with. It is the force which pushes you forward and allows you to find the right path amidst the confusion and chaos of life. Confidence is the necessity you must have to assist you in realizing your dreams and goals.

We all have the power of self confidence within us. Sadly many leave it unused for long periods of time while others use it sparingly like a miser. Forget about past worries and build the power of self confidence within you. Since you can’t change the mistakes of the past, don’t let them spoil the present or dim the future.

The first thing that you must practice is “don't hate yourself” before deciding to practice self confidence. It is very difficult to become self confident if you do not like yourself. Remember, just like everyone else, you were born into this world for a specific reason. Think about the things that you are good at doing. Work at becoming better at them. Don’t worry about the things that you are not very good at. As a very successful person I was talking to recently said, “Why spend your limited time here on earth working on things you are not good at. Instead perfect the things you are good at and hire someone to do the things you are not good at.”

Mediocrity and poor performance are often due to low self confidence but it is not something you have to live with. You can build your self confidence by challenging yourself to take action and do something. Even though you feel as if you lack confidence, it doesn't mean other people can tell. Building good self confidence is a wonderful thing, and it's much easier than you'd imagine. One of the easiest ways of building self confidence is to “take baby steps.” What I mean by this is to set small goals or projects that you have to complete. Each time you do one in the time you have set for yourself, you will build your self confidence. The accumulation of small “victories” will convince your subconscious mind that you can do what you set out to do. It will then convince your conscious mind that you have a lot of capabilities and your self confidence will grow. If you continue to do this over a period of months, you will find that your self confidence becomes greatly improved. With improved self confidence you can take on bigger projects and goals and as these are completed your self confidence will grow by leaps and bounds.

TECHNIQUES FOR SELF CONFIDENCE

So what other techniques are available to anyone wishing to develop more self confidence? It should be no surprise to you when I tell you that the single most influential person on your self confidence is you, or more specifically, your mind. This probably sounds very basic but are you using your own thoughts to reenforce your self confidence and self esteem? Talk positively to yourself all the time. Become your own best friend and supporter. Encourage yourself to do more. Congratulate yourself on every small or large victory. Remember that very few people are successful the first time they try to do something. You didn’t ride a bike the first time you tried. Thomas Edison didn’t invent the light bulb on his first attempt either. It took him more than 10,000 attempts before he made the first successful light bulb and it only lasted a few minutes. The biggest thing to remember is that you are never defeated in doing anything you want to do until you quit. Donald Trump, during a recent interview, stated that he was richer than most people because he failed more times than most. However, in his case, he learned from his mistakes and tried again. Why? Because he was confident that he could do what he wanted to do if he just continued trying. You are no different from Donald Trump. Do what he did. Just keep trying until you succeed. When you do, your self confidence will soar and you will realize that you can do anything you want to as long as you continue trying.

Another technique is to watch other people. When you see someone that stands upright and moves with a sense of purpose watch to see if they give you the impression that they have a lot of confidence. If they do, duplicate the physical characteristics of these confident people and you will start to gain the confidence they display.

One thing that you must ensure that you do not do is listen to people who talk down to you or try to tell you that you cannot do something. Usually these people can’t do these things themselves, so they try to convince others that they can’t do them either. If something like this keeps happening to you, tune these people out and stop associating with them. Your inner confidence needs to be liberated from this constant barrage of negative thoughts and statements from the dream stealers around you. Your limitations are in your mind, not in your reality.

Here are some tips for everyday practice. If you want to develop and build confidence, associate with positive uplifting people. Good people around you will help you build self confidence. If you want to build up your confidence, do something new every day. Each of these small acts will add to your confidence and also make your life more enjoyable. The most sacred thing in life is self confidence because it is the secret of all miracles. When you have confidence in yourself, you arouse everything that is stronger, greater and superior in you. In consequence, the more confidence you have in yourself, the more you will attain and accomplish. A person who knows the power of self confidence walks a path of inner growth and achievement. With self confidence a person of mediocre ability can achieve more in life than those with exceptional talents and little self confidence.

Supreme self confidence is a birth right for every person so isn’t it about time you claimed yours?

7 Steps to Achieving Healthy Self Esteem

The happiest people are those who do not judge others, live in kindness and love themselves.  Do you ever see someone who is perpetually happy and wish you could be like them?  You CAN achieve a healthy self-esteem…it takes time and effort.  Following are seven steps to help you on your way to becoming a happier, healthier YOU.

1.  IDENTIFY
One is not required to live by “I have to” or “I must” – everything we do is a result of a decision…a choice.  Choices made in our younger years and choices made this morning when we woke up.  Everything is a choice:  to obey or disobey; to study or not study; to eat right or not eat right.  When making these choices, we control everything about our lives including our future and our level of self-awareness.  When you see a wise, confident, beautiful person – it’s not luck, it’s choice.  Once you realize and accept this, only then can you begin to become who it is you want to be.  All of us are given gifts…special gifts and talents.  Through self-discovery, we are able to identify these gifts.  If we pay attention to who we are and what makes us happy, we will make the right choices to set our own future.

2.  EVALUATE
Who are you?  Look at yourself and be honest.  Write on a piece of paper the things you like (Pros) and don’t like (Cons) about you.  If you are (and you should be) your own best friend, you should be able to take a look at the Cons and develop a plan to begin moving those negatives over to the positive side.  Likewise, you should take a look at your Pros and develop a plan to make sure those positive attributes remain on the positive side and continue to grow on the inside AND the outside of you.  As you work out a plan, try to find people with like personalities who share your same goals.  These are the very people that will make great friends and help you stay on your set path.

3.  CONFIRM
Talk to yourself!  Still using your list of Pros, begin reinforcing the positive attributes of your personality.  I AM…. “I am successful”, “I am pretty”, “I am fun!”... every positive thought should be repeated often – YOU are WHAT you THINK!!!

4.  FORGIVE
Forgive yourself for screw ups!  They happen to all of us!  We are as imperfect as our bodies!!  Give yourself a break – forgive and move on.  You can’t change the past – but you can live in the present and affect the future!

5.  REST
Treat yourself right.  Be a friend, a good listener, a giver, not a taker – we feel the best about ourselves when we make someone else smile.

6.  BE THANKFUL
Gratitude will get you everywhere.  Give thanks to your creator.  Be humble in all you have.  Pray for those with cold hearts or sad lives.  Really know what you have; all of the gifts, talents, and things you possess.  Here today, gone tomorrow…if you live your life with gratitude and love, peace will always be in your presence.

7.  ACCEPTANCE
Do not accept your fate dictated by others.  Accept only the fate you give yourself.  Through acts of kindness and focused determination, you can achieve all that is good in this life.  When you believe in kindness and in yourself – you can achieve anything.  At that point self-esteem is abundant and so is your life.

Know yourself.  Like yourself.  Live your life like everyone is only in their underwear! Read more here

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BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM - GUIDES TO BUILDING YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE

So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self improvement. Building Self Esteem requires believing in yourself. But like all human behaviours, believing is yourself is a function of your environment and how you relate to what happens to you. Building high self esteem requires that you know what makes you think less of yourself and stay away from it.
Be on the alert, these situations can drown your esteem.

 Negative Work Environment

Be careful when you find yourself in a corporate environment or in a work field where non appreciative people usually get on top.Usually nobody will appreciate your input even when you go overboard and do more than required. You may miss lunch or do overtime, that will not work.  When you get into such situation, do not think you are not important. Do not try pleasing anybody who cares less about your ability. They will refused to be pleased anyway. Stay out of the politics, see them for who they are and work with pride. Appreciate yourself and only get involved in a healthy competition.

Other People’s Behavior

There are many shades of people with varing attitudes. You may be nice, gentle and respectful. However, not everybody is. The earlier your recognise this, the better. There are people who are Bulldozers, gossipmongers, backstabbers, naggers, complainers,… Do not associate with them or take them serious. They dent your confidence with their words and if you associate with them, you will appreciate in their behaviour. Their words may be uncaring and mean. Take them on a face value and refuse to be affected.

Past Experience

Many of us have gone through traumatic experiences. There may be varying degrees like the loss of a lover or a child or even bad relationship experiences from the opposite sex. Trauma may have come in the form of humiliation in front of people you care about or even failure in a project you put so much into building. There is nothing wrong with crying when you experience pain. It is natural after all. However, don’t let the pain lead you into fear such that you detach yourself from your potential. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson. Cry enough. Entertain the pain a while. Stop the fear. Move on.

Negative World View

Have you been in a position where you see your colleagues do so well that their success stops you from trying because you think you cannot make it as far as they have? Well that happened to me. I blew a chance to work for a big company with incredible benefit because the guy who presented before me in an assessment did so well that I said, I cannot beat that. Those words "I cannot beat that" made me shrink and perform less than I was capable. I lost my esteem. I realised that competition is not always healthy for the human spirit. We always have to accept that people will be better than us in something, just as we may be better than them in others. Don't shrink. Find what you are best at and do it everyday. You will increase your self confidence by doing that.

Determination Counts

Our Nature as people, our behaviour and personality is derived from our environmental experiences and genetics. The fad during our childhood, our friends attitudes, our spouses faith all affect how we think and act. Naturally, you will think that people will naturally gravitate towards good company and make good friends or watch good movies so as to build a positive personality. The truth is, we our everyday actions affect our lives in a much older age, when we already have build a negative consciousness with decade long everyday actions.

However, building positive self esteem is a choice. It is a choice that requires deliberate, consistent, conscious actions to attain. If you lack self confidence, then you have a choice to make. Developing your self esteem is not a one day thing as many people preach. It will require consistent positive thinking, risk-taking, and getting support from those who care about you. Stay away from things that makes you fear or think less of yourself. Get a list of your strengths and do what you love everyday.

You can attain high self esteem. But you will need to do that by knowing what makes you think less of yourself and avoid it. You should also know what makes you happy and do it. Finally take some risks and do what you feared to do before.

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